Our society presents the process of being pregnant and the act of giving birth as beautiful and joyful. Of course it can be that, and the experience of bringing a new life into the world is something wonderful. Many women enjoy their pregnancies and enjoy giving birth, some even experiencing orgasmic births.
However, for many women the process has been a painful one. This is a topic which is rarely spoken about and which for many women, remains an area of pain and shame.
Statistics show that 25% of women will miscarriage at some time in their lives. According to the UK’s Department of Health, a further 200,000 women have terminations every year in the UK. Even the act of giving birth successfully may lead to trauma, with many women experiencing physical scarring and emotional difficulties afterwards. Sometimes, partners see the woman differently after she has given birth and find it difficult to reconnect with their sexual desire for them or the woman herself may have difficulty in filling the role of mother whilst at the same time being sexual with her partner.
All of these factors may lead to changes in sexual energy or trauma which may be held in the body post-partum. Most women rarely speak of these things, but in my experience the majority of my clients have had some somatic trauma around the process of pregnancy or birth. I am increasingly working to support women to release tensions and emotions held in the body as a result of these birth related events.